the open road

We travel, initially, to lose ourselves; and we travel, next to find ourselves. We travel to open our hearts and eyes and learn more about the world than our newspapers will accommodate. We travel to bring what little we can, in our ignorance and knowledge, to those parts of the globe whose riches are differently dispersed. And we travel, in essence, to become young fools again- to slow time down and get taken in, and fall in love once more.
— Pico Ayer

In my early twenties I drove cross country with a friend and someone she knew whom I had never met.  This person I never met had just gotten a new car and wanted to take it across the country.  Was I up for the adventure?  You bet!  Did I mind that I didn't know the girl who owned the car, not one bit. 

We had one plan in mind, make it to California where Sara's mom lived.  What happened in between NJ and CA was left to unfold as we went along.  We had a few places we could crash for the night but besides that the road was our opportunity to explore.  It was on this trip that my love affair with the open road began.  I was enamored with the endless possibility that we could go anywhere.  

With open roads before us there was no one except ourselves telling us to go left, right, no...LEFT!!!  I saw things I never saw before, like the wide open sky, billions of stars, and the sun setting in the grand canyon.  Nothing had to be perfect, we made it up as we went along.  

As I have gotten older and my days feel full with errands and a long list of things to do adventure has fallen to the bottom of the list.  I forget sometimes that it doesn't have to be a big trip across the country.  Adventure is always waiting for me right around the corner.  It is a block I have never traveled down, a trail I didn't know existed, taking a different way home and seeing things I never knew where there.  Yes, there is always something new to see and experience, I just have to be open to it.  

And so I am opening my eyes a little bit more.  Seeking out the unexpected.  Looking around the corner and taking the long way home.  I am going on little adventures and stepping outside of my comfort zone.  I don't know what will unfold, but that is all part of the adventure.  

What adventure have you taken recently?  Where have you gone near or far that has expanded you in some way?  Together lets make a pact to adventure more often.  


savor the moments

We took off on a mini adventure.  A night away to refuel our love tanks, slow down, and savor one another.  Road trips are one of our favorite things to do together.  Chatting in the car, singing along to the radio, listening in on the truckers conversations, and quiet moments of comfortable silence.  It is lovely to leave home and arrive somewhere new all in the a matter of hours.   

Adventure awaits around every corner.  New roads to explore, senses to be filled.  

We breathed in the ocean air while listening to the sound of the waves.  We stumbled upon a really old cemetery and watched the sunset together.  We explored, giggled, and loved.  

So easily we can get caught up in the hustle of life.  We need to take the time to slow down.  Even if it is just for the night.  We need to sink into this wildly precious life and enjoy it with the people we love.  Life brings us so much joy, we must slow down a bit to savor it.  

travel

red rock canyon

“We travel, initially, to lose ourselves; and we travel, next to find ourselves. We travel to open our hearts and eyes and learn more about the world than our newspapers will accommodate. We travel to bring what little we can, in our ignorance and knowledge, to those parts of the globe whose riches are differently dispersed. And we travel, in essence, to become young fools again- to slow time down and get taken in, and fall in love once more.”   Pico Ayer

I love to travel.  Spending time in places I have never been opens up my heart.  Seeing new sights and experiencing new things I become surprised and delighted by what unfolds.  When I travel I have the willingness to risk and not care about looking like a fool.  I will try something new and simply just go for it.  

When I travel I feel as if the entire world is opened up to me and I can be or do anything. The people I encounter see me for who I am in that exact moment.  They do not know my back story.  They do not know the sadness I carry in my heart or how terribly shy I used to be.   They don't know where I am coming from or where I am going.  They  just see me in that moment exactly as I am.  

Travel is a gift.  It brings about a freedom that I can't seem to find at home.  It pushes me past my boundaries, reminds me of how strong I am, and sets me free of any expectations I have been carrying along.  When I travel I learn so much about myself.  

On this past trip I learned that I need to slow down.  When I am somewhere I tend to be in a rush to experience it all.  I don't want to miss a thing and I don't want to waste my time.  But there is so much to see and feel even when we are standing still.  When you walk slowly you experience a place more deeply.  You give yourself the chance to take it in and you tuck into your heart what you want to carry home.  You may even find the right path to pick up your bags.  

This weekends trip reminded me of the time I spent driving cross country with a friend and one of her friends that I had never met before.  It was a trip of a life time.  NJ to CA and then back.  We had the opportunity to visit the most stunning national parks and meet some of the most interesting people. 

On the way out west we stopped in Selena Utah because our bellies were hungry and we needed to fill the car with gas.  We found our way to this store that sold everything one could need in a small town ... pizza, video rentals, balloons, and tuxedo rentals were just a few of the things you could get in this one shop.  We were delighted by this because it was something we never experienced before.  

Another time we stopped for lunch was in Colorado.  We entered a restaurant where the gentleman who sat us at the bar took our order and also cooked our food.  He owned the place and had so many stories to tell us about the area.  He was intrigued by our trip and we were happy to share about our travels.  

Being on the road feels like home to me.  I love the unexpected.  Like crossing four lanes of road because we realize we need to turn right instead of left.  I love having the radio on and singing along to the tunes.  The scenery is ever changing and you just never know what you may encounter.  You see things you will never see at home and meet people you most likely will never see again.  It is an incredible journey filled with hope.  

There is something about the west that pulls me in.  The mountains, the colors, it feels like peace to me.  I am grateful to have so many wonderful memories tucked into my heart.  Watching the sunset at the grand canyon after we decided that seeing the sunset was way more important than putting up our tent properly.  After all we were only staying there one night.  And the great big arches that reached all the way up to the sky.  They were beyond breathtaking.  There were also the moments that you look back on and chuckle like when the vending machine was covered in little bugs and you were hoping for a snack or the time you ran over something big and were grateful that the owner of the car was asleep when it happened.  And the way that you never met him but how often she spoke of him on the journey you felt like you had known him forever.  

Hearing the song The Scientist by Cold Play brings me right back to California and how we  played this song on repeat in the car.  We swam in the ocean for hours in San Diego and never got a chance to taste In-n-Out burger.  But finally after miles of searching we did find a Taco Bell.    

Travel has made me a better person.  It has encouraged me to explore and pushed me to grow.  It has given me opportunity and taught me how to adapt to ever changing situations.  What I like most about traveling is going with the flow.  There is always something new to see and someone new to meet.  Traveling fills my adventurous spirit.  I am so grateful for the many different opportunities that I get to explore new places and see the world from the road.  

For travel is it's own type of tour guide.  When we are open enough to listen it will guide you to your next destination.  Be open to all the road has to teach you. 

not the way it was supposed to be

Chiluly

Traveling has made me miss my mom more than I ever thought. Usually I have used travel to escape...be somewhere else.  Forget about life for a moment and live somewhere I wish I could stay forever.  But being on the road has made my moms absence even more present.  

Whenever I traveled I always looked for something to bring back for her. Something small and meaningful that would make her and I feel that she was right there with me. While waltzing through the maze that is Pikes Place market there were so many things that I knew would have remade her smile. I gazed at the items looking to pick out the perfect one and suddenly I was snapped back to reality. No matter what I purchased she wasn't going to be around for me to give it to her. 

Sitting on the plane to Aruba my eyes filled with tears out of no where. I missed my mom like something fierce. I remembered fondly the trip we took with her. The hysterical tube ride. Snorkeling. Hanging on the beach. Being teased for ironing. And her love for the gift shop. I am so grateful to have these memories. To have experienced such an exotic place with my mom who was more than happy to just spend some time with us at the jersey shore. 

I miss her deeply. I wish it was different. I don't understand why it had to end this way. It hurts. She was to young. So filled with life. It wasn't her time. She was supposed to be laughing with her grandchildren. Watching my new house be built. She was supposed to be there on the day of my wedding, beaming with pride.   

It wasn't supposed to be like this. It was never supposed to be like this. Yet here we are. 

time for an adventure

It was time for an adventure
To pick both feet up off the ground and swim
To see how far you could in one strong breathe
Yes, it was time for an adventure
Because this staying still wasn't what life was all about
The body needs to move
The mind needs to be challenged
We must stretch ourselves and grow
Yes, it was time for an adventure
And instead of planning for a someday
Or a one day
She laced up her shoes and walked right out the door
Because adventure awaits us
We just need to go out and seek it

shining brightly

It is here in the sunshine that we relax deeply into one another
The everyday nuances of home have been left behind
We do not have to make the bed or clean the dishes
We can sink deeply into the space between and love each other up
There is no schedule to adhere to
No where in particular to be
We are just here, together, in the moment
It is here where we fall deeper and deeper in love
Seeing so clearly what we appreciate about one another
The laughter comes easily
The conversation is fluid
We stand side by side and each feel how perfect the moment is
The sun shines brightly and we smile wide